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Delaproser -
Founder Member of Triple A / Advocates for Abandoned Adolescents.
A human and civil rights advocate. The United Kingdom resident champions causes of the voiceless, the powerless and the weak, particularly in North America. She campaigns for Political Prisoners, petitions on behalf of incarcerated & human trafficking.

Advocates are proud to Announce our own Advocates Delaproser will be attending the January 2011 Anti Stalking Conference in Kansas USA. National Stalking Awareness Month January 2011 The National Center for Victims of Crime. 2000 M St, NW, Suite 480, Washington, DC 20036 This project was supported by Grant Nos. 2008-TA-AX-K017 and 2004-WT-K050 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this program are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women. For more information on the U.S. Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women visit http://www.ovw.usdoj.gov.


  1. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
  2. Trust your instincts. Don't downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
  3. Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or a domestic violence or rape crisis program.
( The Conference will be held quarterly throughout the Year with an Advocate in attendance.
             Anti Stalking Conference Speech 01/30/2011
  Delaproser - Advocate and Human Rights Advocate
                                     Kansas, U.S.A 
Ladies and Gentleman,
We come here today with a common goal, to raise awareness on the growing crime wave of Stalking and Cyber bullying.
Victims of stalking must reach out to the system for help in stopping the abuse perpetrated upon them. I would like to quote
The Bureau of Justice Statistics, they issued a special report on stalking. The report estimated that over 3.4 million people age 18 years and older were victims of stalking. Stalking is defined as a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. Stalking behaviors that do not elicit fear in the victim are termed harassment. Women were at greater risk than men for stalking, but women and women were equally likely to be harassed. Examples of stalking and harassing behaviors include: unwanted phone calls and messages, unwanted letters and emails, spreading rumors, following or spying, showing up at places, waiting for victim, and leaving unwanted presents. Persons ages 18-24 experienced the highest rates of stalking with young women being three times more likely to be stalked than men. Nearly 3 in 4 of all victims knew their offender in some capacity, most often a former intimate, friend, roommate or neighbor.
According to current statistics from the United States Labor Department, murder is the leading cause of death for women in the workplace, and one of the top causes of death for men.
Many of these deaths are the result of stalking. Studies have found that one in every six violent crimes in America occurs in the workplace, accounting for approximately 1 million crimes a year. But multiplying the danger of this problem is the fact that stalking victims on the job is a fairly new problem for United States businesses. Consequently, many managers and supervisors don't know how to respond to the danger, and may not afford the victim the understanding and protection they need. However, top executives are finally beginning to recognize the seriousness of the problem. Workplace violence was ranked as the number one concern of executives of America's Fortune 1000 companies.
We come together to address this ever increasing life threatening issue and bring to the table our commitment to fight back.
Advoctaes for Abandoned Adolescents has a place on our website dedicated to providing resource links, advice and information for individuals who are being stalked or cyber bullied, please check our site and lets form an alliance in every State and every Country together creating new laws, creating a support network and creating change,
I thank you for your time and Attention.



Are you a stalking victim?

From my personal experience I can assure you the first step in dealing with a stalker is to realize you have one! This is not always as obvious as it seems. It took me a couple of weeks and lots of research on the web to finally realize what was happening to me. I was being stalked.

Your former partner seems unable to let go?

Around 30% of stalking victims have had an intimate relationship with their stalker. The fact that this is far from uncommon adds another difficulty for the victim. Many victims are unsure if what they are experiencing is stalking or if it can be legally defined as such when the stalker is the former boy or girl friend. The law does not differentiate and anybody who is bothering you in ways that are inappropriate or that fit the definitions of stalking might be committing a crime.

You are receiving calls and hang-ups, presents and messages from someone you barely know?

Even if you didn't have an intimate relationship with the stalker, it is still quite likely that you know your stalker personally. This is the case for close to 75% of all stalking cases. Maybe the person bothering you is someone you are working with or someone you have met through a mutual friend. Either way, this secret admirer is giving you a little more attention than you are comfortable with? Again, he or she might be committing a crime, if this person's conduct conforms to the legal definition of stalking.

What can you do about it?

This is the tricky part. Stalking usually consists of many single actions aimed to threaten, intimidate or frighten the victim or people close to the victim. Most - if not everything - a stalker does is not illegal taken by itself but it can have a big impact on the victim when seen together. It is advisable to tackle the problem and your stalker early on. This has many benefits. For one, you don't want the current status quo to drag on any longer then necessary. Another reason is that you don't want your stalker to get any more attached to you than he already is. Dealing with a clever and troublesome stalker on your own can become an almost impossible burden. There are many organizations and professionals you can contact for advice:
  • Mental health professionals
  • Probation and parole officers
  • Family law attorneys
  • Investigators
  • Computer and technology specialists
  • Victim advocates
  • Victim support groups
  • You could also get up to speed and read Don't Love Me
Please forgive the shameless plug of my Anti-Stalking Handbook, but I do believe that - especially for severe cases - the information contained within this book will help you develop a game plan to lessen the impact of your stalkers conduct and develop a strategy against your stalker.


My name is Christian. 5 years ago I was the victim of a stalker myself. I created and maintain this site to help others who happen to find themselves in a similar situation. More about me. I wrote this book to describe what happened to me a few years ago when a female stalker all but disrupted the life I was leading at the time. Turning to the internet I found some resources but most of it was fragmented and didn't really apply to my situation. For over a year she terrorized me and the people around me, threatened me, tried to ruin my reputation at work, bothered me with constant phone calls, made up stories and shifted between trying to win me back and fighting with me. You think these are only things you see in movies? Think again. These people are the reason they make the movies. With this book I hope to have created a helpful guide that will assist you as a stalking victim determine that, yes, you are in fact being stalked, and will give you strategies to put into place to minimize as much as possible your exposure to your stalker’s actions. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to send me an email. I am more than happy to hear from you.

What exactly is stalking?

It can be many things. Generally it is defined as a constellation of behaviors in which an individual inflicts upon another repeated unwanted intrusions and communications. In other words: unwanted pursuit.

Helpful web resources

The Stalking Resource Center of the National Center for Victims of Crime Privacy Rights Clearinghouse End Stalking in America
Stalking is a term commonly used to refer to unwanted, obsessive attention by individuals (and sometimes groups of people) to others. Stalking behaviors are related to harassment and intimidation. The word "stalking" is used, with some differing meanings, in psychology and psychiatry and also in some legal jurisdictions as a term for a criminal offense. It may also be used to refer to criminal offences or civil wrongs that include conduct which some people consider to be stalking, such as those described in law as "harassment" or similar terms. Definitions of stalking The difficulties associated with precisely defining this term (or defining it at all) are well documented.[1] It seems to have been first applied to the harassment (in a general sense) of celebrities by strangers who were described as being obsessed. This use of the word appears to have been coined by the tabloid press in the United States.[2] Stalking can be defined as the willful and repeated following, watching, and / or harassing of another person. Most of the time, the purpose of stalking is to attempt to force a relationship with someone who is unwilling or otherwise unavailable. Unlike other crimes, which usually involve one act, stalking is a series of actions that occur over a period of time. Although stalking is illegal, the actions that contribute to stalking are legal, such as gathering information, calling someone on the phone, sending gifts, emailing or instant messaging. Such actions by themselves are not usually abusive, but can become abusive when frequently repeated over time.[ Gender studies related to stalking According to one study, women often target other women, whereas men generally stalk women only.[7][8] However, a January 2009 report from the Department of Justice in the United States reports that "Males were as likely to report being stalked by a male as a female offender. 43% of male stalking victims stated that the offender was female, while 41% of male victims stated that the offender was another male. Female victims of stalking were significantly more likely to be stalked by a male (67%) rather than a female (24%) offender." This report provides considerable data by gender and race about both stalking and harassment.[9] Types of stalkers Psychologists often group individuals who stalk into two categories: psychotic and nonpsychotic.[10] Many[quantify] stalkers have pre-existing psychotic disorders such as delusional disorder, schizoaffective disorder, or schizophrenia. Most stalkers are nonpsychotic and may exhibit disorders or neuroses such as major depression, adjustment disorder, or substance dependence, as well as a variety of Axis II personality disorders (such as antisocial, avoidant, borderline, dependent, narcissistic, or paranoid). Some of the symptoms of "obsessing" over a person is part of obsessive compulsive personality disorder. The nonpsychotic stalkers' pursuit of victims can be influenced by various psychological factors, including anger, hostility, projection of blame, obsession, dependency, minimization, denial, and jealousy. Conversely, as is more commonly the case, the stalker has no antipathic feelings towards the victim, but simply a longing that cannot be fulfilled due to deficiencies either in their personality or their society's norms.[11] In "A Study of Stalkers" Mullen et al.. (2000)[12] identified five types of stalkers: * Rejected stalkers pursue their victims in order to reverse, correct, or avenge a rejection (e.g. divorce, separation, termination). * Resentful stalkers pursue a vendetta because of a sense of grievance against the victims – motivated mainly by the desire to frighten and distress the victim. * Intimacy seekers seek to establish an intimate, loving relationship with their victim. To many of them the victim is a long-sought-after soul mate, and they were 'meant' to be together. * Incompetent suitors, despite poor social or courting skills, have a fixation, or in some cases a sense of entitlement to an intimate relationship with those who have attracted their amorous interest. Their victims are most often already in a dating relationship with someone else. * Predatory stalkers spy on the victim in order to prepare and plan an attack – often sexual – on the victim. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking


Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder described as a prolonged disturbance of personality function in a person (generally over the age of eighteen years, although it is also found in adolescents), characterized by depth and variability of moods.[n 1] The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting; the disorder often manifests itself in idealization and devaluation episodes, as well as chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation.[1] BPD splitting includes a switch between idealizing and demonizing others. This, combined with mood disturbances, can undermine relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. BPD disturbances also may include self-harm.[2] Without treatment, symptoms may worsen, leading (in extreme cases) to suicide attempts.[n 2] There is an ongoing debate among clinicians and patients worldwide about terminology and the use of the word borderline,[3] and some have suggested that this disorder should be renamed.[4] The ICD-10 manual has an alternative definition and terminology to this disorder, called Emotionally unstable personality disorder. There is related concern that the diagnosis of BPD stigmatizes people and supports pejorative and discriminatory practices.[5] It is common for those suffering from borderline personality disorder and their families to feel compounded by a lack of clear diagnoses, effective treatments, and accurate information. This is true especially because of evidence that this disorder originates in the families of those who suffer from it[6] and has a lot to do with Axis IV factors, rather than belonging strictly in Axis II. Conceptual, as well as therapeutic, relief may be obtained through evidence that BPD is closely related to traumatic events during childhood and to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), about which much more is known.[7]


Stalking and bullying

Stalking and bullying including Internet stalking ... advice and guidance on stalking and antistalking techniques ... Stalking has become Britain's fastest growing crime with over 4000 prosecutions under the ... www.bullyonline.org/related/stalking.htm



  1. E-signatures safer than the real thing, experts say - Technology & science - Security - msnbc.com...http://fb.me/RlvqKW3g
  2. U.S. Plans `Tough' Diplomatic Talks to Expand Cyber-Crime Fight Overseas - Bloomberg http://bloom.bg/i8i93Chttp://fb.me/ANCALSCS
  3. Public News Service http://bit.ly/hLsEiE Cyber-Stalking on the Risehttp://fb.me/J2BlCGqs
  4. January is National Stalking Awareness Month « UMKC Women's Center http://bit.ly/hKnBnN http://fb.me/OeoXSSkm
  5. Clarissa's Blog: Cyberstalking and cyberharassmenthttp://bit.ly/giMP1Q http://fb.me/GnTQImQj
  6. Stalking Moving Into Cyber-space http://bit.ly/f10swThttp://fb.me/QL1Wih4Z
  7. Empowering women against cyber-violence | National Cyber Security http://bit.ly/dVgLAE http://fb.me/NUXjY1nk
  8. Cybercrime writer mysteriously disappears in Bulgaria | TG Dailyhttp://bit.ly/eh4N9c http://fb.me/AxcOiZhy
  9. Stalking Victim Presses for Employment Protection| Giving women and minorities a greater voice around the world....http://fb.me/RwynYIge
  10. Mobility among the top IT security threats in 2011, says UK think tank - 1/7/2011 - Computer Weekly... http://fb.me/KWKaLVGc
  11. Infosecurity (UK) - Europol says the EU is now a key #cybercrimetarget http://bit.ly/hONi2o http://fb.me/Pl11iTtl
  12. Europol to Reveal Cybercrime Risk Level - PCWorld Business Center http://t.co/OTmMaij via @PCWBizCenterhttp://fb.me/Q9wPsHD7
  13. Can Facebook Rumage Through My PC? - Ecademyhttp://bit.ly/gO8Ava http://fb.me/QO4Sidfo
  14. Women Fight Assault Over Internet - IPS ipsnews.nethttp://bit.ly/dGCgz9 http://fb.me/HJPy3p6g
  15. Retail and e-Tail Top List of #Cybercrime Targets in 2011http://bit.ly/i9T9ZV http://fb.me/BaN01riU
  16. http://fb.me/HwtyPcFs
  17. NetClarity CTO Reveals Top 10 Cybercrime and Cyberwar Predictions for 2011 http://bit.ly/hLHLSZ http://fb.me/Ht6xALjO
  18. We're more likely to face crime online than in the street | Mail Online http://bit.ly/eBWgZ1 http://fb.me/QI0w8FEo
  19. Recognizing and Dealing with a Cyber-Stalker http://bit.ly/gZzfB8http://fb.me/PcNF5dmr
  20. Norton Study Reveals 'Over-Sharing' of Holiday Cheer Puts Consumers at Risk 2010 -- http://bit.ly/hJ0cfI http://fb.me/LJaT8Q9F

                       Cyber-stalking study commissioned in UK

The Electronic Communication Harassment Observation is conducting a survey to gauge the prevalence of cyberstalking. 

The UK based organisation has been commissioned by the Network for Surviving Stalking charity, which aims to support stalking victims and raises awareness about the issue.

The survey asks a series of questions about whether respondents have been been harassed online on social networking sites such as FacebookLinkedIn and Twitter.

Designed by psychologists from the University of Bedfordshire, the survey also questions whether users were harassed over instant messaging services, text messages, or e-mail and how frequently they were harassed. 

People are split two ways on the issue of cyber bullying, however in the past few years it's become a hot topic. In 2006 Megan Taylor Meier, an American teenager from Dardenne Prairie, Missouri  committed suicide by hanging three weeks before her 14th birthday. A year later, Meier's parents prompted an investigation into the matter and her suicide was attributed to cyber-bullying through MySpace. The mother of a friend of Meier, Lori Drew, was hauled up in the courts after it was alleged she had a hand in the bullying, however she was acquitted in 2009.

Earlier this month our own Dan Bloom reported that Taiwan made a move to make cyber stalking an important part of its law by revising its Personal Data Protection Act.  Under the laws, which come into effect in 2011, cyberbullying and cyberstalking will be punished. This means posting an article or photo of someone else anywhere on the internet will be considered, under the law, to be ''leaking'' personal data -  if the person concerned has not given his or her approval.

Some may argue that this is a step too far, after all, the internet promotes free speech. However, others will say that this law is something that needs to be thought about in other countries. After all, just because it's a virtual space, it can still be distressing. 

This study will establish baselines for the prevalence, duration and impact of cyberstalking in the UK. Preliminary results of the research will be compiled around the end of the year. The survey will stay online for a year. 

Read more: http://www.techeye.net/internet/cyber-stalking-study-commissioned-in-uk#ixzz1CIBZ73ZU


                     Cyberstalking awareness is global wake-up call

Letter from Taiwan Bullied law professor forces written apologies

Read more: http://www.techeye.net/internet/cyberstalking-awareness-is-global-wake-up-call#ixzz1CIBxvPt3 

Earlier this year, Andrea Petrou wrote an article on this website noting that the Electronic Communication Harassment Observation (ECHO) was conducting its first-ever survey to gauge the prevalence of cyberstalking in British society.
"The UK-based organisation has been commissioned by the Network for Surviving Stalking charity, which aims to support stalking victims and raises awareness about the issue," she wrote. "The survey asks a series of questions about whether respondents have been been harassed
on social networking sites such as FacebookLinkedIn and Twitter."
"[While] people are split two ways on the issue of cyberbullying ...in the past few years it's become a hot topic," Petrou added. "In 2006 Megan Taylor Meier, an American teenager from Dardenne Prairie, Missouri committed suicide by hanging three weeks before her 14th birthday. A year later, Meier's parents prompted an investigation into the matter and her suicide was attributed to cyberbullying through MySpace. The mother of a friend of Meier, Lori Drew, was hauled up in the courts after it was alleged she had a hand in the bullying, however she was acquitted in 2009."
The ECHO study will establish baselines for the prevalence, duration and impact of cyberstalking in the UK, according to the charity, with preliminary results of the research compiled by late December. Survey results will stay online for a year, the charity said.
In related news from the other side of the world, a Taiwanese law professor who sued 108 people after comments she made on a TV program triggered a series of what she called "insults" against her is hoping her case will lead to better public awareness of cyberbullying issues not only in Taiwan but around the world as well.
In a recent interview with TechEye in her office, Ying-chieh Lu, a diminutive but feisty law professor at National Chung-Cheng University in southern Taiwan said she is more determined than ever to see internet justice become more protected (and enforced) in law.
After Lu appeared on a local TV talk show, she was barraged with anonymous postings from
across the country, with people saying things on blogs and forums such as "There's a hole in her brain" and "She's retarded!" and "Lu is a moron professor." And those were the nice posts.
According to the Liberty Times in Taipei, another anonymous poster wrote "I hope her daughter gets raped and killed late at night" on a public internet forum.
During an informal chat recently in her 5th floor office at the university's law department, Lu showed a reporter a large envelope with a dozen formal letters of apology that she received from some of
those who insulted her. They were asked to write the letters on instructions of the Taiwan police, who have investigated the cyberbullying and cyberstalking incident that began earlier in the year, she said.
Lu said some of the people who insulted her online worked for government agencies and at other universities. Some even had doctorate degrees, she confirmed.
What's next? Dr Lu said she plans to keep the issues on the front burner in Taiwan and hopes to play a role in educating the public about internet use and abuse.
"We need to raise awareness of these issues," she said. "When this happened to me earlier in the year, at first I was sad, but then I decided to fight back and make a point with my lawsuits."
Showing this reporter a dozen or so formal letters of apology that were signed and dated, Lu said this is one way of fighting back, but that there is much more work to be done in educating the public. 

Read more: http://www.techeye.net/internet/cyberstalking-awareness-is-global-wake-up-call#ixzz1CIC7BqwD


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