- Founder Member of Triple A / Advocates for Abandoned Adolescents.
- A human and civil rights advocate. The United Kingdom resident champions causes of the voiceless, the powerless and the weak, particularly in North America. She campaigns for Political Prisoners, petitions on behalf of incarcerated & human trafficking.
- Advocates are proud to Announce our own Advocates Delaproser will be attending the January 2011 Anti Stalking Conference in Kansas USA. National Stalking Awareness Month January 2011 The National Center for Victims of Crime. 2000 M St, NW, Suite 480, Washington, DC 20036 This project was supported by Grant Nos. 2008-TA-AX-K017 and 2004-WT-K050 awarded by the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this program are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, Office on Violence Against Women. For more information on the U.S. Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women visit http://www.ovw.usdoj.gov.
- If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
- Trust your instincts. Don't downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
- Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or a domestic violence or rape crisis program.
- ( The Conference will be held quarterly throughout the Year with an Advocate in attendance.
- Anti Stalking Conference Speech 01/30/2011Delaproser - Advocate and Human Rights AdvocateKansas, U.S.ALadies and Gentleman,We come here today with a common goal, to raise awareness on the growing crime wave of Stalking and Cyber bullying.Victims of stalking must reach out to the system for help in stopping the abuse perpetrated upon them. I would like to quoteThe Bureau of Justice Statistics, they issued a special report on stalking. The report estimated that over 3.4 million people age 18 years and older were victims of stalking. Stalking is defined as a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. Stalking behaviors that do not elicit fear in the victim are termed harassment. Women were at greater risk than men for stalking, but women and women were equally likely to be harassed. Examples of stalking and harassing behaviors include: unwanted phone calls and messages, unwanted letters and emails, spreading rumors, following or spying, showing up at places, waiting for victim, and leaving unwanted presents. Persons ages 18-24 experienced the highest rates of stalking with young women being three times more likely to be stalked than men. Nearly 3 in 4 of all victims knew their offender in some capacity, most often a former intimate, friend, roommate or neighbor.According to current statistics from the United States Labor Department, murder is the leading cause of death for women in the workplace, and one of the top causes of death for men.Many of these deaths are the result of stalking. Studies have found that one in every six violent crimes in America occurs in the workplace, accounting for approximately 1 million crimes a year. But multiplying the danger of this problem is the fact that stalking victims on the job is a fairly new problem for United States businesses. Consequently, many managers and supervisors don't know how to respond to the danger, and may not afford the victim the understanding and protection they need. However, top executives are finally beginning to recognize the seriousness of the problem. Workplace violence was ranked as the number one concern of executives of America's Fortune 1000 companies.We come together to address this ever increasing life threatening issue and bring to the table our commitment to fight back.Advoctaes for Abandoned Adolescents has a place on our website dedicated to providing resource links, advice and information for individuals who are being stalked or cyber bullied, please check our site and lets form an alliance in every State and every Country together creating new laws, creating a support network and creating change,I thank you for your time and Attention.
HOW TO STOP A STALKER
Are you a stalking victim?From my personal experience I can assure you the first step in dealing with a stalker is to realize you have one! This is not always as obvious as it seems. It took me a couple of weeks and lots of research on the web to finally realize what was happening to me. I was being stalked.
Your former partner seems unable to let go?Around 30% of stalking victims have had an intimate relationship with their stalker. The fact that this is far from uncommon adds another difficulty for the victim. Many victims are unsure if what they are experiencing is stalking or if it can be legally defined as such when the stalker is the former boy or girl friend. The law does not differentiate and anybody who is bothering you in ways that are inappropriate or that fit the definitions of stalking might be committing a crime.
You are receiving calls and hang-ups, presents and messages from someone you barely know?Even if you didn't have an intimate relationship with the stalker, it is still quite likely that you know your stalker personally. This is the case for close to 75% of all stalking cases. Maybe the person bothering you is someone you are working with or someone you have met through a mutual friend. Either way, this secret admirer is giving you a little more attention than you are comfortable with? Again, he or she might be committing a crime, if this person's conduct conforms to the legal definition of stalking.
What can you do about it?This is the tricky part. Stalking usually consists of many single actions aimed to threaten, intimidate or frighten the victim or people close to the victim. Most - if not everything - a stalker does is not illegal taken by itself but it can have a big impact on the victim when seen together. It is advisable to tackle the problem and your stalker early on. This has many benefits. For one, you don't want the current status quo to drag on any longer then necessary. Another reason is that you don't want your stalker to get any more attached to you than he already is. Dealing with a clever and troublesome stalker on your own can become an almost impossible burden. There are many organizations and professionals you can contact for advice:
- Mental health professionals
- Probation and parole officers
- Family law attorneys
- Computer and technology specialists
- Victim advocates
- Victim support groups
- You could also get up to speed and read Don't Love Me
Hello!My name is Christian. 5 years ago I was the victim of a stalker myself. I created and maintain this site to help others who happen to find themselves in a similar situation. More about me. I wrote this book to describe what happened to me a few years ago when a female stalker all but disrupted the life I was leading at the time. Turning to the internet I found some resources but most of it was fragmented and didn't really apply to my situation. For over a year she terrorized me and the people around me, threatened me, tried to ruin my reputation at work, bothered me with constant phone calls, made up stories and shifted between trying to win me back and fighting with me. You think these are only things you see in movies? Think again. These people are the reason they make the movies. With this book I hope to have created a helpful guide that will assist you as a stalking victim determine that, yes, you are in fact being stalked, and will give you strategies to put into place to minimize as much as possible your exposure to your stalker’s actions. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to send me an email. I am more than happy to hear from you.
Helpful web resourcesThe Stalking Resource Center of the National Center for Victims of Crime Privacy Rights Clearinghouse End Stalking in AmericaBorderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder described as a prolonged disturbance of personality function in a person (generally over the age of eighteen years, although it is also found in adolescents), characterized by depth and variability of moods.[n 1] The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting; the disorder often manifests itself in idealization and devaluation episodes, as well as chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation. BPD splitting includes a switch between idealizing and demonizing others. This, combined with mood disturbances, can undermine relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. BPD disturbances also may include self-harm. Without treatment, symptoms may worsen, leading (in extreme cases) to suicide attempts.[n 2] There is an ongoing debate among clinicians and patients worldwide about terminology and the use of the word borderline, and some have suggested that this disorder should be renamed. The ICD-10 manual has an alternative definition and terminology to this disorder, called Emotionally unstable personality disorder. There is related concern that the diagnosis of BPD stigmatizes people and supports pejorative and discriminatory practices. It is common for those suffering from borderline personality disorder and their families to feel compounded by a lack of clear diagnoses, effective treatments, and accurate information. This is true especially because of evidence that this disorder originates in the families of those who suffer from it and has a lot to do with Axis IV factors, rather than belonging strictly in Axis II. Conceptual, as well as therapeutic, relief may be obtained through evidence that BPD is closely related to traumatic events during childhood and to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), about which much more is known.
Cyber-stalking study commissioned in UK
Cyberstalking awareness is global wake-up call